Introduction
I begin with the grief of a great Christian writer, on the death of his wife. We have all experienced this type of grief. A little child is dying of bone cancer – we pray with fervent faith for a cure and yet the child dies. Why? Where was God? It seems that in such cases as these, there is a deafening silence from ‘our father in heaven’.
One marvellously gifted man, a convert to Christianity, slowly watched his wife dying of cancer. As he observed her slipping away from him with all that she had meant and had given him, his newfound faith about which he had written so much and with which he had strengthened so many others now began to waver. In times of such grief, C. S. Lewis wrote, “One runs the risk of asking: Where is God? . . . When you are happy. . . [you] turn to Him with gratitude and praise, [and] you will be. . . welcomed with open arms. But go to Him when your need is desperate, when all other help is vain, and what do you find? A door slammed in your face, and a sound of bolting and double bolting on the inside. After that, silence. You [might] as well turn away. The longer you wait, the more emphatic the silence will become. There are no lights in the windows. It might be an empty house. . . . [Yet he was once there.] What can this mean? Why is [God] so present a commander in our time of prosperity and so very absent a help in time of trouble?” [C. S. Lewis, A Grief Observed (New York: Seabury Press, Inc., 1961), pp. 4-5]
Where is the promise of “Ask and you will be given?”
What do the passages mean that seem to imply ask and you’ll receive?
Asking
So many passages seem to suggest that every petition of the believer will be answered.
Matt 21:22, Mark 11:24 “24 Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.”
John 14:13-14 “And whatsoever you shall ask in my name, that will I do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son. If you shall ask any thing in my name, I will do it.”
John 16:23 “And in that day you shall ask me nothing. Verily, verily, I say unto you, Whatsoever you shall ask the Father in my name, he will give it you.”
1 John 5:14-15 “And this is the confidence that we have in him, that, if we ask any thing according to his will, he hears us: And if we know that he hears us, whatsoever we ask, we know that we have the petitions that we desired of him.”
1 John 3 22 and we receive from him whatever we ask, because we keep his commandments and do what pleases him.
John 15 7 If you abide in me, and my words abide in you, ask whatever you will, and it shall be done for you. 16 You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you that you should go and bear fruit and that your fruit should abide; so that whatever you ask the Father in my name, he may give it to you.
Let’s just consider one such example
Matthew 7:7-9 and Luke 11 9 And I tell you, Ask, and it will be given you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. 10 For everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened.
But what do we ask for??? We are told to ASK according to HIS will.
Asking is always about God in our lives
Luke 12:32 It is your Father’s good pleasure to give you the kingdom
James 1:5 5 If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives to all men generously and without reproaching, and it will be given him.
It’s what we ask for that matters. The promise of asking and receiving is attached to a Godly ask. Asking for a closer walk with God.
Seeking is a search for God
Matt 6: 32 For the Gentiles seek all these things; and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. 33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things shall be yours as well.
Luke 12 31 Instead, seek his kingdom, and these things shall be yours as well. 32 “Fear not, little flock, for it is your Father’s good pleasure to give you the kingdom.
Luke 17 33 Whoever seeks to gain his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life will preserve
Romans 2:7 To them who by patient continuance in well doing seek for glory and honour and immortality, eternal life:
Hebrews 11:14 For they that say such things declare plainly that they seek a country.
Yes – seek and we will find. But it’s what we seek that matters. We are instructed to seek the Kingdom, righteousness and a relationship with God. This will always be granted.
The Knock is from Jesus
Rev 3:20 Behold, I stand at the door and knock; if anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and eat with him, and he with me.
Yes, knock and it will be opened. It is the door to grace in Jesus which will be opened.
Another example:
Mark 11 13 And seeing in the distance a fig tree in leaf, he went to see if he could find anything on it. When he came to it, he found nothing but leaves, for it was not the season for figs. 14 And he said to it, “May no one ever eat fruit from you again.” And his disciples heard it…. 20 As they passed by in the morning, they saw the fig tree withered away to its roots. 21 And Peter remembered and said to him, “Master, look! The fig tree which you cursed has withered.” 22 And Jesus answered them, “Have faith in God. 23 Truly, I say to you, whoever says to this mountain, ‘Be taken up and cast into the sea,’ and does not doubt in his heart, but believes that what he says will come to pass, it will be done for him. 24 Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.”
Jesus, hungry as he was, went to a fig tree to find fruit. He found none. But it was the wrong season. Why did he expect to find any? He didn’t. It is a parable. The fig tree is Israel (Jeremiah 24). Jesus is not saying that your faith should kill fig trees – but rather, the disciples should be able to discern the times given in the prophecies of Israel.
Again, Jesus is not saying that your faith should move mountains – but rather, the faith of the believers can overcome all obstacles. Mt Carmel represented the people’s choice between God and idolatry. Elijah just made fire come down – but your faith can take the whole mountain of idolatry and throw it into the sea.
Why do I assume this is all figurative? Why not take it at face value? Because Jesus said that he spoke in parables.
Jesus taught in symbols- especially about answered prayer.
John16:22 … Now is your time of grief, but I will see you again and you will rejoice, and no one will take away your joy. 23 In that day you will no longer ask me anything. I tell you the truth, my Father will give you whatever you ask in my name. 24 Until now you have not asked for anything in my name. Ask and you will receive, and your joy will be complete. 25 “Though I have been speaking figuratively, a time is coming when I will no longer use this kind of language but will tell you plainly about my Father. 26 In that day you will ask in my name. I am not saying that I will ask the Father on your behalf. 27 No, the Father himself loves you because you have loved me and have believed that I came from God.
This is worth analysing:
22 Now is your time of grief (the time of the crucifixion), but I will see you again (after he is risen) and you will rejoice (when they see Him raised), and no one will take away your joy. 23 In that day (after resurrection) you will no longer ask me anything. I tell you the truth, my Father will give you whatever you ask in my name (Holy Spirit gave them Spirit gifts). 24 Until now you have not asked for anything in my name. Ask and you will receive, and your joy will be complete. 25 “Though I have been speaking figuratively, a time is coming (when they receive Holy Spirit) when I will no longer use this kind of language but will tell you plainly about my Father. 26 In that day you will ask in my name (after the Holy Spirit comes at Pentecost).
It gives a context to the promise of ‘ask and you will receive’.
John 16 plainly states that Jesus has been talking figuratively about prayer. Not literally chucking mountains. He promises that a time was coming, when they would receive the Holy Spirit (at Pentecost) and be able to send their requests to God. They were able to perform miracles through their faith.
According to his will
1 John 5:14 This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us. 15 And if we know that he hears us–whatever we ask–we know that we have what we asked of him. 16 If anyone sees his brother commit a sin that does not lead to death, he should pray and God will give him life.
This passage tells us that we are heard if we pray according to His will. But isn’t that a bit redundant? If it was God’s will, it was going to happen anyway – why bother praying?
Not at all!
It’s God’s will that all may be saved (1 Timothy 2:4), but it is contingent on our prayers for preaching and for individual calling.
HOW do we KNOW it’s His will?
How do we know it is His will? Because He tells us.
Matthew 9:35-38 “Then he said to his disciples, “The harvest is plentiful but the workers are few. 38 Ask the Lord of the harvest, therefore, to send out workers into his harvest field.” This prayer – for successful preaching – is God’s will.
Matthew 6:9 “This, then, is how you should pray: “‘Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name, 10 your kingdom come, your will be done on earth as it is in heaven. 11 Give us today our daily bread. 12 Forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. 13 And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.’
It is God’s will that we be delivered from temptation and evil. But He still wants our prayer to affect this.
James 1:5 If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him. 6 But when he asks, he must believe and not doubt, because he who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. …
Even the inner most needs of Jesus were subject to God’s will. He had to suffer – despite desperately trying to find some other way.
James tells us that we will be given wisdom. Not the solution to the Einstein field equations – but wisdom from God – the path of salvation which will be denied to none. That is a guaranteed answer.
Asking Wrongly
James 4:1 What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? 2 You want something but don’t get it. You kill and covet, but you cannot have what you want. You quarrel and fight. You do not have, because you do not ask God. 3 When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures. 4 You adulterous people, don’t you know that friendship with the world is hatred toward God?
This tells us that the motives for our prayers are critical. If we ask anything of God, it must be in love and with the purpose of furthering His plan. We should only ever pray and petition for what will enhance His purpose.
When God says no
Sometimes we are given a clear answer ‘no’ to our petitions.
David sought to build a Temple for God. The intention was good. Nathan the prophet said ’Go ahead – do whatever is in your mind.’ But it received a resounding “NO” from God. The building of a Temple was for David’s son and so we have the great promise of Jesus and the temple of ‘living stones’. But this prayer received a clear answer – no. It was not unanswered.
Paul sought the intervention of God to remove some “thorn in flesh”. 2 Corinthians 12. Again, the answer was an unambiguous ‘NO.’ The lesson – God strength is made perfect in our weakness – it is to God we alone must go for strength. Again – a resounding “NO”.
2 Samuel 12 16 “David therefore besought God for the child; and David fasted, and went in and lay all night upon the ground. 17 And the elders of his house stood beside him, to raise him from the ground; but he would not, nor did he eat food with them.”
David prayed continually for the life of his child – but the request was not granted. Perhaps we could say David’s prayer was answered with a silent No!
But what of the deafening silence we regularly get to out petitions?
The first century Christian who prayed to stop the mouths of the lions, as they were thrown to the beasts to entertain the Romans. Hadn’t they prayed “God, you stopped the mouths of the lions for Daniel, for David and for Samson. Please repeat the miracle now”. What a witness! Twenty thousand Romans calling for the blood of the Christians – and suddenly the lions roll over. What a preaching tool. But the prayers went unanswered.
And those burned at the stake throughout the ages. Hadn’t they prayed the prayer of Daniel’s three friends. You saved them from the fire – please save us now. No answer.
And yet it was no less than what had been promised.
Luke 21: 16 You will be betrayed even by parents, brothers and sisters, relatives and friends, and they will put some of you to death. 17 Everyone will hate you because of me. 18 But not a hair of your head will perish. 19 Stand firm, and you will win life.
1 Peter 6 In all this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. 7 These have come so that the proven genuineness of your faith—of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire—may result in praise, glory and honour when Jesus Christ is revealed.
Prayers for escape unanswered. But the suffering had a profound meaning.
1 Peter 2 20 For what credit is it, if when you do wrong and are beaten for it you take it patiently? But if when you do right and suffer for it you take it patiently, you have God’s approval. 21 For to this you have been called, because Christ also suffered for you, leaving you an example, that you should follow in his steps.
There is a great change in the structure of Hebrews 11 at verse 35. Up until here, the story is of all the great miracles wrought by faith. But, then a change. From mid verse 35 the story is of suffering – of deliverance denied. They were commended by their faith – not in deliverance, but in suffering and unanswered prayer.
Unanswered Prayer in the Bible
Jesus
Matthew 26: 39 … “My Father, if it is possible, may this cup be taken from me. Yet not as I will, but as you will.”
The prayer of Jesus was not unanswered, rather Jesus supplied the answer himself. God assured Him that there was no other course. Jesus asked for some escape from the torture to follow. Answer: no – His petition could not be met.
Acts 12:1-10. We often quote this as an example of prayer miraculously answered. Herod, having seen how the Jews were delighted in the death of James, took Peter with the full intent of doing the same to him. But the church made earnest prayer for Peter…we can imagine what they may have said. “God, please don’t take Peter – he was with Jesus at all the most intimate moments, in the garden, on the transfiguration mount…please don’t take Peter.” And God answered with a miracle – prayer answered. But the story is also of unanswered prayer. Didn’t the church make the same prayer for James? He could not have been taken by Herod with no one knowing. Were not the same prayers made? “God, please don’t take James – he was with Jesus at all the most intimate moments, in the garden, on the transfiguration mount…please don’t take James.” And James was beheaded. God was glorified in the death of James, but in the life of Peter. Unanswered prayer for James.
1 Tim 5:23 tells us that Paul’s dear friend and ‘son’ in the Gospel was sick. Why didn’t Paul heal him. Paul had the holy spirit and the ability to heal the sick. Why say “No longer drink only water but take a little wine for the sake of your stomach and your frequent ailments.” Why not just cure him? Why not pray for healing? Because, the Holy Spirit gift of healing was for the preaching of the gospel – not to keep Christians alive forever. So, it is with our prayer.
Job prayed for the spiritual life of his children, yet they were struck down by the power of God. Where were the answers to Job for his children? One could probably assume that the godly King David also prayed for his children. Three of his sons were murdered, one died in infancy, and his daughter was raped by one of his sons. Where was the answer to prayer?
James
James 5 14 “Is any one of you sick? He should call the elders of the church to pray over him and anoint him with oil in the name of the Lord. 15 And the prayer offered in faith will make the sick person well; the Lord will raise him up. If he has sinned, he will be forgiven. 16 Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective.”
This seems to suggest that prayer will heal all sickness. The verse says that the elders should pour oil on the sick. This was the medicine of the day. So, it says pray and take your medicine. Then verse 16 seems to say that the sick person will get well.
But this can be misleading. James uses two very different words which are translated identically as ‘sick’.
14 Is any one of you sick (astheneō)? He should call the elders of the church to pray over him and anoint him with oil in the name of the Lord. 15 And the prayer offered in faith will make the sick (kamnō) person well; the Lord will raise him up.
The Greek words for ‘sick’ in verse 14 and 15 are entirely different. In verse 14 astheneō means an illness and in verse 15 kamnō means tired or worn out (spiritually). So, the verses are saying: If anyone is ill, get the church to pray for him and give him his medicine. If anyone is failing spiritually – then pray with them for God’s strength and whatever errors they have committed will be forgiven. They can be restored as God can forgive all sin.
We seem to make our own judgement of what God can heal. We have often heard of people claiming prayer as a cure for cancer etc, but we’ve never heard of a one-legged man being prayed over – and his leg grows back. The prayers for the lame to run, for the blind to see and the deaf to hear will be answered – in the future.
Isaiah35: 5 Then will the eyes of the blind be opened and the ears of the deaf unstopped. 6 Then will the lame leap like a deer, and the mute tongue shout for joy. Water will gush forth in the wilderness and streams in the desert.
When John Baptist was imprisoned, did Jesus pray for his release? Not that we know. In fact, when John’s followers came to Jesus, he didn’t pray for John’s release, but for comfort in the future Kingdom. The parable of Elijah and Elisha taught both Jesus and John that John would not escape the fate of death. Jesus gave him a glimpse of the kingdom.
Luke 7:20 When the men came to Jesus, they said, “John the Baptist sent us to you to ask, ‘Are you the one who was to come, or should we expect someone else?'” 21 At that very time Jesus cured many who had diseases, sicknesses and evil spirits, and gave sight to many who were blind. 22 So he replied to the messengers, “Go back and report to John what you have seen and heard: The blind receive sight, the lame walk, those who have leprosy are cured, the deaf hear, the dead are raised, and the good news is preached to the poor. 23 Blessed is the man who does not fall away on account of me.”
When John the Baptist was facing death, he was afraid (as we all are). He asks; is Jesus the Messiah? Maybe I’ve been mistaken and he’s not the one and I don’t have to die? Jesus doesn’t say: “yes – I’m the one”. He says – tell John that the “blind receive sight, the lame walk, those who have leprosy are cured, the deaf hear, the dead are raised, and the good news is preached to the poor. 23 Blessed is the man who does not fall away on account of me.” Hang on John – the King has arrived, and I will see you in my Kingdom.
2 Kings 6:14 tells the story of Elisha and his young servant being surrounded by chariots of fire.
Note – the chariots were not used. Every man and woman of God is surrounded by the chariots of fire…not to save you from death, but to save you in death. Not to save you from suffering but to save you in suffering.
We all pray for safely, on the roads, from disease etc and yet accidents happen: You are not saved from them.
Luke 13:4 tell the story of the Tower of Siloam. It says accidents happen…BUT we MUST impose meaning on them. The fall of the tower was meaningless, but you must impose the meaning that that we all live a tenuous life. Be prepared to meet your maker at any time.
Be prepared to die. Every Christian can die for Christ…if you die from cancer, car crash, old age etc, but you can still die for Jesus.
Here is a paradox: As you die, you are born to life
Luke 21:12 “But before all this, they will lay hands on you and persecute you. They will deliver you to synagogues and prisons, and you will be brought before kings and governors, and all on account of my name. 13 This will result in your being witnesses to them. … 16 You will be betrayed even by parents, brothers, relatives and friends, and they will put some of you to death. 17 All men will hate you because of me. 18 But not a hair of your head will perish. 19 By standing firm you will gain life.
Jesus promises that we will suffer. Our prayer will not save us – as it is God’s plan for the believers to suffer. Believers can be (and have been), tortured, burned alive, drowned and thrown to wild animals – but not one hair of their head will perish. You are saved to eternal life.
Prayer and faith healing
I would never presume to say that the prayer of faith cannot heal or be answered. Rather I am saying that usually prayer sustains us in our suffering and does not remove it.
There are some Christian Churches which claim to be able to heal in faith. If this were always true – no one would ever die, as we’d keep praying each time someone got sick!
Almost all the churches claiming healing are in the USA. Why are all the miracles only in the USA?
Small congregations of English believers, in village churches in England get no miracles. Small congregations of Lutheran believers, in village churches in Germany get no miracles.
Why do only Americans get miracles? Because the miracles are mostly FAKE.
Have you ever seen a ‘tele evangelist’ pray and grow back an amputated leg? Never. Why? Fake healing.
The Christian Calling
I repeat, Christians were never called to a life free from suffering. In fact, they are called to suffer!
They are called to suffering…not relief from it! Where did God ever promise relief from cancer, car crashes, failed marriages, depression etc.
So, when we suffer – we do so in the belief that the next life is the reward of perfection. We suffer pain and loss ‘for the joy that is set before us’ (Hebrews 12:2). The bible abounds in parables of a life of suffering before glorification. King David suffered rejection, persecution, loss of family before he receives the ‘crown of righteousness’.
Suffering is guaranteed –
Matthew 10: 21 “Brother will betray brother to death, and a father his child; children will rebel against their parents and have them put to death. 22 All men will hate you because of me, but he who stands firm to the end will be saved….. 30 And even the very hairs of your head are all numbered. 31 So don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows. 38 and anyone who does not take his cross and follow me is not worthy of me. 39 Whoever finds his life will lose it, and whoever loses his life for my sake will find it.”
Prayer is not an escape; it was never meant to be
Jesus tells his followers that we must ‘take up our cross and follow him’. There is only one reason to ‘take up a cross’ – to be hung on it. We will suffer. We may be tortured, betrayed, and killed – but not one hair of our head will be hurt. A paradox? Our life is preserved by God to be given to us in the future.
“In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. 7 These have come so that your faith–of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire–may be proved genuine and may result in praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed.” 1Peter1:6 Here, Peter is telling the saints, that we can use suffering as a demonstration of our faith. When a Cristian suffers, whether by deliberate actions of evil men, or by accident – we can use that suffering to show our faith in the fact that there will be another life. Again, prayer is not an escape from suffering.
1 Peter 5: “6 Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. 7 Cast all your anxiety on him (not escape from anxiety) because he cares for you.“ Peter tells us to give our anxiety to God. We will not escape it – but we just hand it to God who gives it meaning. God will be with us in our suffering.
1Peter5: 9 Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that your brothers throughout the world are undergoing the same kind of sufferings.
So, is unanswered prayer due to our lack of faith?
We pray for a dying child. The child dies despite all prayer. So – was our faith insufficient? To believe this just adds guilt to the grief we already have. No – it is not a lack of faith. The totality of Christian faith is in a future life. We are not exempt from the sufferings of this life. God does not deliver us from car accidents, illness, the death of a child, or of marriage problems. We are expected to show our faith in these sufferings, not escape them.
So, how do we pray? I find great consolation and the answer in the words of Daniel 3 17 If it be so, our God whom we serve is able to deliver us from the burning fiery furnace; and he will deliver us out of your hand, O king. 18 But if not, be it known to you, O king, that we will not serve your gods or worship the golden image which you have set up.”
What a delightful paradox. God will deliver us, but if He doesn’t. How can that be? Their faith is firm. He will deliver us, if not in this life, then in the next. We will be delivered; our prayer will be answered.
So, do we pray for the sick? Of course we do, as Hezekiah did for himself and was given a positive answer. But we know it will only be granted where God has a purpose. We want God in every corner of our lives, but he will never guarantee to meet our wishes this side of his Kingdom. The new job we prayed for may turn out to be just as mundane as the one we left, the love we sought so desperately and prayed for when we were young may prove inadequate in later life. Our perfection lies in the future.